Monday, 25 August 2014

*Exceptionally Thankful*

Today, I am grateful for life, for His love, for His grace, for His blessings. I look back at where He has brought me from and where I am and where I am certain He is taking me to, and I bow in humility. My prayer and desire is to remain in His will. This song says it all for me. God bless you Tasha Cobbs

Sunday, 24 August 2014

Song Of The Day!

For most of us, Sunday is the day of worship, a day of doing right, a day of prayer,a day of flipping through the pages of our abandoned bibles, a day of alms etc. The problem with Christianity however is that we wait till sunday to do the things we should do daily. No wonder we are termed hypocrites and unbelievable atrocities are being committed in church or under the concept of Christianity. This song sums it up. The artiste is someone I know and I am really happy he is living his dreams. Are you living your own dream or you are still dreaming? Make a difference today and have a beautiful week guys. This week is an exceptionally special one for me ):

Friday, 22 August 2014

Joke Of The Day;Will God Give Me A Partner?

There I was having my lunch, and a colleague stepped in to equally grab something to eat. We do not work in the same department so it was quite a good bonding time for both of us as we got to know a bit more about each other. We had a laugh as she told me a bit about her kids and as the conversation progressed, I felt the need to tell her about Gods love and the peace that comes from knowing God. For anyone who knows me, I spare no opportunity to talk about the Fathers love to as many as I come across(are you doing the same?).

          However as she listened attentively, I promised to get her a devotional the next day, that daily encourages individuals about their walk with Christ, using real life/real people scenarios. And there comes the bombshell, she goes "elly will that devotional  bring me a partner"? and she said it as a determinant for accepting the devotional from me. At that I laughed so hard and she also laughed with me. In between the laughter however I stopped and responded, " the answer to your question is YES! Because the truth is that when we come to God, He gives us everything in accordance to His will, and having a happy home with your partner is one of them". As I said this she responded in agreement saying "elly you know what you say is true! because my brother really loves God and goes to church and does well and he is happily married and living with his wife"

Lesson Of The Day; Never miss an opportunity to tell someone about God, you might be all they need to lead them in the right path, and thinking of this, I just remember that if the servant girl did not tell Namaan the leper about Elisha, he would not have been healed.(2 Kings 5:1-19) That might have been her sole purpose in that family, to bring deliverance. Even a joke can be turned around to Gods glory.

Lesson 2; There is nothing God cannot do/give. If its in  His will, then its his bill. Keep Trusting!

                               Have a lovely weekend guys--ellyeleanor

Monday, 11 August 2014

Todays Thoughts.....

The very truth in these words..... Teach us Lord to number our days and gain a heart of wisdom... Its just a chance to life at the end of the day.

Sunday, 10 August 2014


I hardly write articles on relationships, for several reasons and top of the list is that I don't regard myself to have enough experience. However this generation is one that is filled with surprises, just when you think you have seen it all, it deals you another blow that gives your perception another dimension and by this I am referring to a situation when a couple married for close to 30 years say they are having a divorce. At the sound of that, I excuse myself to use the bathroom, but really my intention is to have a breath of fresh air. Not like the air in the environment was stuffy though, but the sound of those words seemed to choke me.
I however came across this article by Frank Powell ( and I must say, the truth in his words couldnt have been put better. Great write up! Great Guy! I would say he is a writer of my ilk! Now I think I am patronising myself here hahaha. All the same, hope you are blessed as I am, whenever I read it! Have a great week guys!!

Ever wish you had the answers to a test before you walked into the classroom? Maybe some of you did have the answers, but you better keep that to yourself. I took some really hard tests during my college tenure. An engineering curriculum will do that. And if you spent time in college you remember review days. The professor would walk into a class full of students (some of which I had never seen) and give some insights about the impending test. Miss review day, and it would be foolish to expect a passing grade.
But it never failed. I would follow the guideline. I would study the handout. But on the day of the exam, the professor would put the exam on my desk…and there it was. A foreign formula or equation I had never seen. At least one I did not see on the study guide. Looking back, I realize something…the teacher did not intend for the study guide to be comprehensive. It was simply not possible to include everything from the required reading, class notes, and lectures.
Such is the case with the church and marriage. I am grateful for the foundation the church gave me in regards to marriage. It was a good study guide. But there some things on the test I did not learn until marriage began. So, I am going to give you some answers to the test that some of you might not expect to see. I grew up in church. I spent most of my time with Christian people. I was told much about marriage. But these 7 truths about marriage I never heard in church.
1.) Sex is a gift from God. Explore It.
Make no mistake…God created sex. But through the years, God’s people have allowed Satan to steal this gift. Without a fight.
I was never educated about sex…and I grew up in a Christian family. My framework for sex was built by my friends at school and the movies I watched. Big UH OH. I still struggle with enjoying the fullness of sex today because of the cloud of lies formed during my teenage years.
It is time for God’s people to take back the gift of sex. The lies surrounding it are ruining lives and ruining marriages. If you are married, let me challenge you to explore sex. Explore the fullness of it for the glory of God. Pray for sexual intimacy with your spouse.
Parents…it is time to stop allowing Satan to define sex for our children. Educate them. Start early. The average child is exposed to pornography at age 11. Eleven!! And many parents wait until high school to have “the talk” with them. At that point, you are not building a foundation for sex, but trying to destroy a foundation Satan has already built.
Church leaders…I am convinced of this. The situation in our culture today is too dire to allow parents to override you here. Talk about sex. If parents refuse to educate their children, then you do it. Do not let Satan beat you to the punch. A false understanding of sex is destroying our young people. It is destroying our nation. It is destroying our world. And we are doing nothing!
Sex is a beautiful gift created by God for a man and a woman that have vowed to spend the rest of their earthly lives with one another. If you are married…open this gift and enjoy the fullness of it.
2.) There is more than one person out there for you.
Soul mates are made…not born. I am not sure where this idea of soul mate originated, but it is false. Maintaining a healthy relationship is more about commitment than perfection. Every person on earth has imperfections. And the reality is we could spend our lives with more than one person.
Tiffani (my wife) is not perfect. There are nuances about her that frustrate me. But I have realized these frustrations are really a result of my imperfections. I love her so much. And I love her more everyday. I am committed to her.
I meet too many young people that are waiting for something that is not real. “I just couldn’t marry her because she smacked her food.” “He just wasn’t the one…he had this weird twitch when he smiled. But I know my soul mate is still out there. I just have to keep looking.”
Or you might have just missed him or her.
What if God does not want you to find a perfect person, but find an imperfect person that will draw you closer to Him? What if God desires you to marry a person with flaws to expose yours? What if God wants to teach you the value and life found in committing to one person forever, not the exhausting pursuit of searching your entire life to find the perfect person?
Soul mates are made…not born.
3.) The first year of marriage is hard…really hard.
What have we done? Are we going to make it? Why is this so hard? All questions I asked myself many times during my first year of marriage. We were arguing. We were fighting. It was really hard. And every day I thought something was wrong. I thought we had a bad marriage. Nobody warned me about the first year. But take this as a warning…the first year of marriage is difficult. If you are in the first year of marriage and thinking about giving up…congratulations. You are now…married!
But let me encourage you…do not give up. Everyone struggles. You are not unique. Persevere. There are better days coming. Your marriage will get better. Do not walk out. If you walk out now you disqualify yourself (and your spouse) from years of joy. Stick with it.
4.) A spouse does not complete you
I hate you Jerry Maguire. You have brainwashed a generation of people to believe a lie. Spouses do not complete people. I bought this lie, and it wasn’t until I let go of any notion my wife could fill some void that I was able to truly love her. Until then, I was always frustrated. I expected Tiffani to do something she was incapable of doing.
If you are empty, broken, or insecure, and you believe a spouse is the silver bullet to your problems…buckle up. It will be a bumpy ride. Only God can fill those voids. You will never be able to enjoy the beauty of marriage if your spouse’s job is to complete you.
5.) Marry somebody with similar goals, dreams, and passions.
Marry somebody that is a Christian, yes. But I would go even further. Marry somebody with similar passions and dreams. Now, I understand this breaks down at some point. People are not machines. No two people are going to want exactly the same thing in life. However, if you love foreign missions and your potential spouse hates going overseas, some tension will arise.
Synergy is extremely important in a marriage. If your spouse has the same vision as you, they will understand your struggles and support your pursuits. They will encourage your walk. They will be empathetic. There is much power in two people living life with the same goals, dreams, and passions for life.
6.) Marriage is not for everybody.
Paul talks about this in I Corinthians 7. He tells the church at Corinth to remain in the situation they are in. If unmarried, then stay unmarried. If married, then stay married. He later says this…
So then the person who marries his fiancee does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better. (I Cor. 7:38)
Even better? I never heard that in church. Maybe it is time for God’s people to accept the reality that God has not called everyone to marry. I have talked with young men and women that are so concerned with finding a spouse. It consumes them. And most of the pressure comes from…US. The church. Once a person reaches mid-twenties, we assume something is wrong with them if they have not married. They must have a terrible flaw.
“Bless your heart. You are almost 30 and not married? I know this must be hard!?”
Shame on us. I am worried many failed marriages are a result of people allowing the pressure of marriage to draw them into something God did not design them for. Marriage is holy and good, but it is also possible to follow Jesus without a spouse.
7.) The wedding day is a lie…don’t buy it. 
I love weddings. I love officiating them. It is a rare moment where I get to make a divine proclamation that forever changes the status of two people. Powerful.
But in an increasingly individualistic, “me” culture, weddings create a potentially dangerous situation. “Every girl lives for her wedding day.” It is all about the bride and groom. Everyone looks at them. Encourages them. Congratulates them.
Many couples have bought the lie of the wedding day…it is all about me. But marriage is at odds with this mindset. A successful wedding day is one where everyone serves you. A successful marriage is one where you serve your spouse. The wedding day is a day where the spotlight is on you. Marriage has no spotlight. The wedding day is about saying a bunch of words that most couples never take seriously. Marriage is about putting the words into action. The wedding day is joyous and celebratory. Many seasons of marriage are about persevering and not letting go through the storms.
Embrace your wedding day. Prepare for it. Celebrate it. But do not make the mistake of believing the lie. After your 20 minutes of fame, the spotlight is gone forever. It is no longer about you (and this is a good thing…you will see).

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