Thursday, 13 December 2018

Etiquettes & You!

Good manners we are taught by our parents mainly & then we learn in school as we go along. But when it comes to etiquettes, we MUST learn! And honestly I struggle with some of these in the list stated below and I thought to share. Its different when you are with mates but I always say to myself that if you must master a habit, you have to be intentional regardless of who you are with. As I type, I still remember an event that even though i was well dressed and very ladylike, I felt really inadequate when it came to using/placing my cutlery of the dinning table hahaha. We keep learning..... enjoy the read!
In fact, the basic rules of etiquette are pretty simple. It’s a culture of speech, common courtesy, neat appearance, and control over your emotions.
Bright Side presents you with the etiquette rules, which every self-respecting person should know.
  • If you say, ’I invite you,’ that means you pay. You may say, ’Let’s go to a restaurant,’ and in this case, everyone pays for themselves. If a man offers to pay for a woman, she can agree.
  • Never pay a visit without a calling first. If someone came to see you without warning, you might be wearing a bathrobe and hair curlers! One British lady liked to say that when uninvited guests showed up on her doorstep, she always put shoes on, and grabbed a hat and an umbrella. If she liked the person, she exclaimed, ’I just got home!’ If not, she sighed and said, ’Ah, what a pity, I was just on my way out.’

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  • Don’t put your phone on the table in public. By doing so, you show how important a role this device plays in your life, how bored you are of what’s happening, and that at any moment you’re ready to stop a useless conversation and once again check your Instagram feed, answer an important call, or try new levels in Angry Birds.
  • Don’t invite a girl on a date if you’re going to be texting all the evening.
  • A man never carries a woman’s handbag. However, he can take her coat to carry it to the cloakroom.
  • If you’re walking along with someone and your companion greets a person you don’t know, you should also greet them.
  • Most people believe that the only proper way of eating sushi is using chopsticks. However, this really depends. Men, unlike women, can eat sushi with their hands.
  • Your shoes should always be clean.
  • Avoid meaningless talk on the phone. If you need someone to talk to, it’s better to meet with them in person.
  • If someone offends you, you shouldn’t return the favor or raise your voice to the person who insulted you. Don’t sink to their level. Just smile and leave the ill-mannered company.
  • A man should always walk on a woman’s left-hand side. Military men are the only exception, because they should be ready to salute.
  • Drivers should remember that puddle-splashing of passers-by is an amoral behavior.
  • Nine things should be kept secret: age, wealth, family quarrels, religion, medical problems, love affairs, gifts, honor, and disgrace.
  • In the cinema, theatre, or concert hall, you should move to your seat facing those sitting. A man goes first.
  • A man should never touch a woman without her permission. This means that it is unacceptable to: hold her hand, touch her during a conversation, and push her or take her hand above the elbow (unless a man is helping her to get into or out of a car, or cross the street).
  • If someone calls to you rudely (’You there!’), you shouldn’t answer. Be a model of good etiquette and polite social manners.
  • The golden rule when using perfume is moderation. If you can still smell your perfume in the evening, everyone else is already tired of it.
  • A well-bred man will always show proper respect to a woman.
  • In a woman’s presence, men may only smoke with her permission.
  • Whoever you are — a company director, an academician, an elderly woman, or a student — when you enter a room you should be the first person to greet everyone there.
  • Respect the privacy of correspondence. Parents shouldn’t read their children’s letters. Couples should show the same respect for each other. –°hecking someone’s pockets in search of love notes, letters, and other things is extremely rude.
  • Don’t try to chase fashion. It’s better to wear nice, even if not fashionable, things than look awful in a brand-new suit.
  • If you’re forgiven after you’ve apologized, don’t touch the offensive subject again just to say you’re sorry. You should try to avoid such mistakes in the future.
  • Avoid laughing and talking too loudly, as well as staring at people — it’s insulting.
  • Don’t forget to thank your loved ones, relatives, and friends. They help you not because they have to. It’s their desire. Appreciate them.
As Jack Nicholson, an American actor, said:
’I think much of decency. How to pass a plate. Not to shout from one room to another. Not to open a closed door without knocking. Let a lady pass. The aim of these endless simple rules is to make life better. I pay close attention to my manners. Etiquette matters. It’s a simple and comprehensible language of mutual respect.’

https://brightside.me/inspiration-tips-and-tricks/25-etiquette-rules-that-everyone-should-know-173305/

Sunday, 9 December 2018

The Real MVP!!


I actually had goosebumps listening to her! So much passion! so much energy! Such strong lungs!!

Age is nothing! Go conquer your week!

God's grace is sufficient!




Elly's thoughts...

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Wednesday, 5 December 2018

Keep moving! Keep dreaming...

I was watching dragons den a few days ago. Its a program in which start ups or existing businesses come to venture capitalist known as dragons with their ideas in a bid to convince them to invest in their business in return for a percentage of the business. What caught my attention on this particular day was the age of the man named Peter who needed funding from the venture capitalists. Peter is 67 and as he presented his ideas, the dragons grilled him with lots of questions regarding his alternative milk product and I could see him trying to come up with the right answers to convince the dragons but the more he tried, the more he lost their confidence in his innovation. At some point, one of the dragons goes "Peter, when do you plan to retire" to which Peter responded "When I die". At that point I screamed good man!(hahaha).


Now Peter did not get the funds he needed from the dragons but his parting words were "I am going to go & modify this product because I believe it is going to fill a gap in the market & I know it will be profitable".

Remember Peter is 67! However I saw in this man an indomitable & determined spirit regardless of his age! He got a NO! but he kept moving!!! He was focused!! He was unstoppable!! Regardless of what life throws at you & how unfavourable some outcomes might be, just don't stop! Keep moving! Keep dreaming!

Go take charge of the rest of your week!!

xx
Elly

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