The rib Connection Yes!

Ladies, if the man you think is going to be your husband is not incurably addicted to your love, you are probably already beginning on a wrong footing and frankly, you may not be the rib he is missing. God's design is that when He (God) unveils you to the man who is to be your husband, that he, the man, not only (literarily) gives out the "Ahhhaa, this is she, the one that seamlessly fills this emptiness I have known that has made me so needy and incomplete before her appearance" exclamation.... BUT He must not henceforth, be able to fully function without your love, without your help, without YOU.

This is not because you are more important to him than His Savior but because His Savior designed it that way - because He needs help! A man who must marry a woman must be thoroughly satisfied in the completion she brings to his life and recognize that SHE is his perfect helper and not another. You cannot afford to play around on issues like this or settle for anything less because anything short of God's plan in this order is wrong.

If he needs to be reminded by you or begged or given gifts and favors (in cash and kind) before he even decides to act like he is truly helpless without your love, then my dear lady, listen to God, you are not the rib that was taken out of him.

Consider for example the husband whose help-meet is taken from him as a result of death (my Dad is an example). Do you notice (regardless of his age and/or how long they were married) how utterly confused that man becomes? This is because his completion is gone. He is left again in the same "lonely" state he was in prior to being married. Have you ever wondered why widowers are many times more likely to remarry on account of this issue of emptiness and their deep-seated need for "closure" by the part of them that was taken out, per time? The answer is, God designed a man with one of his ribs missing!

Of course if you are a godly woman you would know that this has nothing to do with arrogance or pride as those are evil and not of God. It is about living in the plan of God. If there will ever be hope for the family and for marriages, we must get back to living out ONLY the plan of God for our lives. And this is one place where we are increasingly missing it. Something we have learnt from the world (from holly and bolly and nolly and all the other woods) tells us we can make a man love us by doing whatever it takes to win his love. Hold on Sis, it is not true. We did not learn this of God. The (helpless) love he has for you should grow from the result of his eyes being opened to the perfectness that you bring to his life upon your being "presented" by heaven to him. See what happened to the first husband under God at the revealing of his wife....

Genesis 2: 22

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;...

I trust God to unveil this Truth to us even more and enable us to completely put away human reasoning and worldly rationale when we attempt to deal with spiritual issues. I pray that God will enable us to freely yield to His Power to deliver us from trials and errors. I pray that God will awaken the desire and restlessness in men and women today so that we can return to the Creator's Manual and conform our lives only to His plan and intentions.
                                                         Amara Ben Kalu