Wednesday, 1 April 2020

Friday, 27 March 2020

Work on your self-image

If you pay frequent visits to this blog, you should know that UCB's word for today is my favourite devotional. The messages are ever so timely. This is yesterday's which I was supposed to post. The link is also beneath the post in case you want to read more or even subscribe. 

Iyanla Vanzant said, ‘Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We can’t…draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.’ That means how we see ourselves determines the kind of relationships we establish. Many of us harbour a low sense of self-esteem. We deem everyone else as being more important than ourselves and think meeting their needs is more important than meeting our own needs. We compare ourselves and allow others to determine who we are, and become dependent on their approval to prop up our identity. 

What is self-awareness? And how can you cultivate it?

But it’s a slap in the face to God to look at another person and say, ‘I wish I were like them.’ God made you for His own purpose, that you might reflect a unique aspect of His glory. As believers in Christ, we’ve been given a new identity as children of God. We weren’t created to live dependently on any other person. Rather, God is restoring us to the image of His Son and making us whole (see 2 Corinthians 3:18). In Him we don’t ever need to be afraid to be who we really are. It’s time to develop a true opinion of yourself based on the truth that God made you exactly, precisely, intricately, wondrously, and uniquely you – a one-of-a-kind creation for which there’s no comparison. The psalmist wrote: ‘You…scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe…How precious it is, Lord, to realise that you are thinking about me constantly!’ (Psalm 139:16-18 TLB).

On replay...

Friday, 20 March 2020

On replay...

We are in very uncertain times and we need to guard our peace consciously or the doom and gloom will drive us into a state we never thought we could be. One thing is certain, it will get better... today, tomorrow, next week, next month... it will surely get better at some point.

Wednesday, 11 March 2020

Today's reflection

I am a deep thinker and every single event spurs the reflective segment of my mind (if there's anything like that 😄)

Some time last year, I discovered Morgan Harpen Nichols on IG & her writing reflects my style.
I must say she has been a blessing.
Here's a glimpse

Thursday, 13 February 2020


Even if you don't see it or feel it... just know that you are growing, you are improving, you are making progress regardless of how infinitesimal it may  seem.
Don't underestimate the power of the process... it's all part of your success story...😊

Wednesday, 5 February 2020

The thing 'Argument'

For the past lets say 6 years, I have taken my personal development seriously. And by personal development I do not mean my career, that aspect of my life seems to be going seamlessly hahaha.

By personal development, I am referring to my perception of things, issues & people as well as my approach & response to situations, people & life in general. One of my favourite verses in the bible is Isa 26: 3 which says; "Perfect peace have those who love God & nothing shall make them stumble". To me, peace is most important because it forms the right environment for deep reflection, which most times leads to the right decision being made which is instrumental to success. In order words, I protect my peace with everything I have and I have learnt or rather still learning to trust God.
The question for you now is do you have peace?

Secondly argument is something I do not partake in. Its quite funny coming from a girl who could hold arguments & not let go until she won... But you know what, I realised, arguments are counterproductive because at that point, everyone's ego is acting up & even when the truth stares us in the face, we do not accept it due to pride but carry on arguing. You see why I do not get involved in arguments? When I sense, the ego as well as the environment getting charged, I just back out...
For me, it is not a cowards approach but true wisdom because I tell myself, "I will revisit this topic at a more appropriate time if it is necessary".

Again, people have their idiosyncrasies so it is quite difficult to have them changed via arguments. These mindsets take time to form, give people as well as yourself time to unlearn.

Finally I ask myself, what is the objective of this argument? If it is important, I do not want to ruin my chance at achieving it & if it is not... then why argue??

Few days ago, I had a deep conversation with a friend who means a lot to me and before the conversation, I actually made an audible prayer which was... "Lord give us the grace to listen to understand & not listen just to respond, to put ego aside & be humble enough to accept where we got it wrong" Did that conversation go well? It went fantastic because our hearts were ready & the environment was right. I am not there yet, but I am definitely making progress...
What is your approach to arguments? What areas of your lives are you working on? Are you making progress? Please feel free to share 🙂

Tuesday, 7 January 2020

Self Reflection...

I have not been writing as much... life has been happening and I actually miss being able to share my thoughts here on a variety of subjects. This year, I hope to improve because actually in addition to inspiring others through my writing, the ability to write down my thoughts is actually therapeutic for me. Oh Yes!😊

Can you believe its already 7 days into 2020? Well in  some parts of the world.

Now reflecting on the past 7 days, what can you write down about you, your growth & your knowledge as well as what you have tried learning or unlearning?

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The ability to reflect daily is actually key to change as well as improvement.
No one can do it better than you & the more honest you are to your personal self evaluation as you reflect, the easier it will be to bring about the much needed change.

I am a firm believer of the power of consistency as well as doing even the smallest things with the greatest efficiency because if success must be a lifestyle, then the habits which lead to success must be evident in all we do regardless of how infinitesimal we might consider them.

It is not just about doing great things but doing everything with the right attitude,determination, great attention to detail as well as efficiency in mind to bring about the desired change.

Again this year what do you need to achieve? It is much more than wishful thinking but reflection and strategy.

Do you need to learn a skill? Do you need to volunteer in order to learn the skill or broaden your network? Do you need to take courses? Do you need to join groups? What do you need to do?

Again what can you say about your 1st 7 days into 2020?

Feel free to share your thoughts...

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