Friday, 16 November 2018

Ellyeleanor Foundation





As the year comes to an end, which charity have you supported? Whose life have you touched positively? Who can recount their joy this year & point to you as the reason why they still believe in miracles? Remember support does not have to  be a six figure amount... it can be as small as $5....
At www.ellyeleanor.org, we are changing lives for good... bringing hope in hopeless situations & securing the future of underprivileged children.

Thinking of supporting? Please check out our site to see how or drop us a mail:
 info@ellyeleanor.org





Today's thoughts...

When the only option is to pray...


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Tuesday, 13 November 2018

God Is Looking For You



A lot of people mention God in their speeches because it seems fashionable.....

But do you really know God for yourself??

Many run in the race(the devil inclusive), but only one receives the crown....




Monday, 12 November 2018

Tough Skin & tender heart




I was listening to Sheryl Brady yesterday & she mentioned that these 2 components: A tough skin + A tender heart are essential to survive in this world.
Few days ago, I was talking with a friend about a situation & I made this comment "people are responsible for making other people seem really tough due to experiences". Sometimes you do a good deed & right before your very eyes because of how the person responds afterwards which is sometimes unbelievable, you regret even helping in the first place. If this happens again & again, the individual might shut down entirely and not be willing to help anymore regardless of the situation. Sometimes when you see individuals who are so unwilling to help, its as a result of very bitter past experiences. But the word for today is..... keep doing good, don't let the world harden you heart rather develop a tough skin when it comes to doing the right thing/pursuing your dreams no matter how unconventional it might seem! 





Thursday, 18 October 2018

Elly's Thoughts...


I wrote this in reflection of a career decision. I am not someone who loves to remain in my comfort zone but again I love to know all the details before I take a leap which is in its self equally an obstacle to progression.

The word for you today is.. take that leap & have no regrets!

Monday, 15 October 2018

Entrepreneur minds- Feedback responses


When I was still in the banking sector, I can vividly remember one of the training's I had on managing complaints & customer feedback. I also observed a lot about how complaints were handled in M&S when I had a part time job while doing my masters degree. Now one of the differences between a good business & a 'not so good' business is the way they handle feedback/complaint especially when it is not a positive feedback. A good business uses the complaint to their advantage by the way they respond to it while a 'not so good' business ends up spiraling up the negative view of the customer  and exacerbating the already bad situation.


Its as little as your opening remark... start with a 'Thank you' for your feedback... we are sorry you feel this way..... however.... then at this point, you begin with clarification or better still you let the customer/client know you will be looking into the situation.

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I am fortunate to seat at the board of a private school and on one day, I received a complaint from a parent & when I called my staff to notify them, they go " These parents' always complain"..... my response was "If we treat every complaint this way, we will never make amends because we are not taking responsibility but we are pushing the blame back to the parents. Our response should be we will look into it, and if we are justified that we are not in the wrong, even then we should still be careful in the response style we choose".

Many businesses struggle with handling complaint/feedback but if a business succeeds in this area, it takes the business to a very strong position with competitors.

So if you are an entrepreneur or thinking of becoming one, make sure you have this sorted!

Sunday, 14 October 2018

On replay...

I read the book of Romans Chapter 8 on Thursday the 11th & on the 12th I stumbled on this song...

I don't believe in coincidences... Now that's me, you are entitled to your own opinion.

All the same, be blessed as you listen just like I was.



Friday, 5 October 2018

Don’t try to force it!


God speaks in many ways, through friends, family, strangers, the bible & even through this blog! Oh yes!!😀

Today look what He told me via my devotional, I am so blessed & hope it blesses you too?


‘See the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.’
Ecclesiastes 3:11 NLT


Often life doesn’t go according to plan. A promotion doesn’t happen in time and your career plans get side-lined, or a relationship backfires and you spend every waking moment analysing what went wrong. The secret to real peace lies in seeing ‘the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end’, and accepting that He works according to His own timetable. Have you ever tried unlocking the door to your house when you’re rushing, weighed down with packages, and the phone is ringing? It’s the right key, but it won’t work because you’re forcing it. Once you relax, the door opens with no problem. One counsellor says: ‘Stop trying so hard. You’re sabotaging yourself. Once you decide a situation is good or bad, you put yourself in a position of having to do something about it. For example, if someone is “good” you start comparing yourself: am I better or worse? How do I need to improve? We’re exhausted before we begin! 
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When the path is uphill...walk up the hill!


When the path is uphill – walk up the hill! When you have to go around an obstacle…go around it! Accept the path before you. The Bible says there’s “a proper time and procedure for every delight” (Ecclesiastes 8:6 NASB). Sometimes that means you don’t get what you want today, you get what you have today. Maybe something needs to happen first. Or there’s an important lesson God wants you to learn and you’re trying to avoid it. Or it’s just not time. Stop trying so hard to make things happen on your timetable. Do what you can do in peace, surrender the rest to God, and watch the “impossible” fall into place.’

https://www.ucb.co.uk/word-for-today

Saturday, 29 September 2018

Clamped Recovery Van

2 days ago, on my way home from work, I drove pass a clamped recovery van! Yes you heard me right "a clamped recovery van".... like the rescuer needs rescuing 😆


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However, I reflect a lot. I get inspiration from just about anything & any situation so at this point, I just started thinking of all the times we run to people for help but these 'go to' people also have flaws, they have hidden battles which we might never know of.

It is also the same with relationships we expect so much from partners both business partners and relationships. We expect them to jump at all our whims & caprices but we forget that these individuals are also flawed & most times equally need rescuing...

Yesterday a much older colleague asked how I was doing & I responded "okay", truth is that yesterday was actually a struggle & I think she could see through it because I am usually buzzing with so much energy and she goes "Elly... just okay"? And I responded "No, I'm a bit below okay" and I told her a concise version of what my triggers at the time were which lasted for about 90secs and afterwards she told me how she was feeling which lasted for about 5mins and as she spoke, she got upset & the tears began to flow from her & I began to encourage her......The irony of life is that I felt, she would be able to say a word or two to me but I ended up being the encourager. When the rescuer needs rescuing I call it... 

Bottom line is I've learnt that the holy spirit is the perfect one when it comes to needing a rescue. God sometimes uses people but when our expectations are solely on people, we end up worse off or having a large collection of flawed individuals who make up a larger pity party!

Anyways, I get so much healing from my alone time & I plan to do me this weekend.... my mum has promised to pay for a massage so its looking good already...😀😀

Hope you have a fab weekend..

xx

Tuesday, 25 September 2018

"Point of View"


Your perception might be the problem...

Try changing your point of view & see if it makes a difference.

This is not to say you should lose yourself but rather have a holistic approach before jumping into assumptions and making decisions based on just assumptions...





Hoping we all have a fab week

Saturday, 22 September 2018

Grief Path- Life after...

Few months ago precisely on the 15th of April 2018, my dad passed on. Its amazing how a single phone call has the capability to change your life forever. Nothing prepares anyone for death &  from my experience, I have no words to describe exactly how I felt when I received that call and how I still feel... There are no right adjectives that will justify how I feel. They say time heals but I feel that's just cliche anyways in my case. Even as I write this, the tears still flow... 'oh dad'

However it has been a season of tremendous growth. My words have become few, my patience improved, my dependence on God solidified, I find myself displaying wisdom beyond my years thanks to the holy spirit, my determination to really live & not just exist has been heightened and my reflections have taken a different form. Honestly this growth has happened unconsciously not out of determination but just by the circumstances surrounding me. The only thing I have consciously & prayerfully made an attempt not to fall into is depression and not necessarily because of the fear of the end result but because of the assignments/projects ahead of me which are quite huge. I have also made a conscious effort to de-clutter my mind & focus on what is important.


Some days however if not most days, I miss 'me'... I miss the days before the 15th of April. I wish everything could just go back to the way things were before dad shut his eyes for the last time. But I don't have so much time to remain in la la land because right before me, another battle lies ahead of me. The past 2 weeks have been intense and the coming ones will need additional 'Grace'....


This thing called life.... it just never ends. I am however glad to have this platform, to inspire both you & myself... yes writing is actually therapeutic for me and I will be here for a very long time inspiring this generation as the holy spirit helps me. 

Thanks to everyone who has followed me and constantly logging for inspiration even during my long silence. I  have a project I am working on which I will be sharing with you all soon.. 😊 

Do you have tips on how you got through a difficult path in life? Please share 

On replay...

Wednesday, 29 August 2018

Elly's Thoughts

Most times we beat ourselves so much for not being good at various things. We are our own biggest critic! I speak for myself actually. When it comes to planning & execution, I want everything to be detailed, I actually don't mind the delivery being robotic, when I involve vendors, I want seamless service.
But you know what... this perfectionist mentality is the thief of joy and is at the core of ingratitude because it makes me expect so much from others and even more from myself & best is never good enough for me. But as I reflect, and listen to some mentors, what hit me hard today is "Elly you can't be good at everything"
If that is part of your struggle, please give yourself a break, focus on your strength, learn new skills but don't force all your fingers in your mouth.

Thursday, 5 July 2018

grief path... pain

Pain is the price we pay for love....

The deeper we love, the deeper the pain...

Dad... You would have waited a bit more, the void is deep!


Thursday, 28 June 2018

Entrepreneur minds... PLAN!

Ndubuisi Ekekwe is one person I am glad I follow on Linked In & here's one of the reasons why... Read the following excerpt of what he shared yesterday. He mentioned Nigeria but it's practically applicable globally in my opinion.

As the wise man Solomon wrote many years ago, there is time for everything. You must know when to invest in your career and when to monetize your skills. Getting an extra degree is not a distraction. Getting a certification is not a distraction. Learning something new should never be a distraction. Always make sure you have a strategy with resilience to decouple your future from the decision of any man/woman. Fresh graduates, planning for the deep future may make you look stupid before peers who may not see beyond tomorrow. That first job is not for buying cars and expensive jewelry. It is to re-invest and INSURE your career with skills.


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Accumulation of capabilities is a continuum. The nature of labour is changing; you must adjust.  If you have not noticed it, know that more than 80% of non-public workers in Nigeria see dwindling wages after 15 years. The banking sector, oil & gas and increasingly telecoms are brutal on this: they cut workers and those workers never recover to earn as much as their old wages. Nigeria is challenging - no matter how comfortable you feel about that job, do not be overconfident. To the CFO, you are likely a number (I am sorry for that but that is the reality). Have PLANS and Good Luck.

https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6417711663855730688

Difficult decisions...

I had to make a difficult decision on Tuesday after an expected phone conversation. Now sometimes in life, I pray for something but when that prayer finally gets answered I seem to develop cold feet because its not in the exact way I want it or maybe sometimes I am just so overwhelmed by the reality of the answered prayer and because of the way I am wired, when I have a victory in a certain area, it becomes boring and I look for something more daunting! (not a very nice way to live honestly).

Back to the conversation; Now I had to make a decision and becomes it didn't come in the way I wanted, the pros & cons kept going through my head and in the end I go "can you please give me sometime to think about this and get back to you"? And to which he responded yes "I will give you 24hrs and I respond "please can I push for 48 hrs"? And he responds "okay Elly I will give you 48hrs but not more than that because we need to know the way forward ASAP.

Now the 48 hours elapses today and I need to make that phone call with a response but up until 2AM, I was confused because I did not know the right feedback and this was a decision I had to make. By 1.00AM I was on the phone to my brother and he says "this is what you have always wanted, in April you turned down an offer and now you are about to turn down another one? No! Go for it! The sacrifice will be worth it.



When I was done with him, I was about 50% convinced of what I wanted to do but afterwards, I prayed and read the above from https://www.ucb.co.uk/word-for-today and I felt that was God directly speaking to me.

And in a few hours.... I will be making that call.
Sometimes you don't have all the details but that is where faith plays a role...

How have you dealt with difficult life decisions? Please share and lets learn a thing or two.

Thursday, 21 June 2018

grief path...

Like any good novel, hardships lead to good character development. Through hardships we learn resilience, empathy & most importantly it takes us from shallow to depth...


Tuesday, 5 June 2018

Don't forget your purpose...

Your purpose is greater than you....... Be sensitive!


When Esther’s words were reported to Mordecai, 13 he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape. 14 For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?” Esther 4:13-14



Saturday, 2 June 2018

The grief path: Uncensored Speech

Because the grief path is my personal experience, I will be as personal as I can be. If you are new to the blog, grief path is a new series documenting how I am dealing with the loss of my loving dad who went to be with the Lord (7 weeks ago tomorrow). It feels like yesterday.... dad....always & forever

When friends and family hear of the loss of a loved one, some know the right words of consolation, some don't which is understandable because death is a difficult subject to address and some are just plain stupid, it shakes you up from your grieving process back into reality.....

Now the issue is not the stupid people because stupidity will never be gotten rid of but your approach to their level of stupidity is important for your sanity...

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The above conversation took place 2 days ago between a lady and I..

Phone rings:

Lady: Hi Elly, I just got to know of your dad's passing yesterday and I just called to say I am so sorry. Take heart, it is really painful but that is life.

Me: Thank you so much for your call, I appreciate. I hope you and yours are good?

Lady: Yes we are fine. How are you doing? Do you work?

Me: Yes ( There was no need to give a longer response because I didn't consider that question relevant)

Lady: Are you married?

Me: Not yet

Lady: Shocked voice! Why are you not married? Or do you want to become a baby mama?

Me: At this point I was laughing really hard, it was really unbelievable that she could utter such words. I would never imagine that such a grown woman could display such a high level of stupidity at such a time and I felt genuinely sorry for the children she was raising because really she can't give what she has not got. This is someone I have not seen or spoken to in over 10 years, the truth is that she got my number from her brother and I don't even have hers. Summary is that we are not friends and it's not her place to ask me such intrusive questions but hey this is life and stupidity can't be eradicated.( I can't give you the details of the rest of our conversation but the truth is that she didn't ruin my day. She is just a highly ignorant woman and I am genuinely sorry for her)

My advice to you: If you are in a difficult situation like going through grief, it does not mean people will always be sensitive to your plight but remember you are responsible for your sanity, your happiness and your peace of mind. Stupid people should not determine your mood. Take charge!

God's Plan & Ways....

For His ways are not our ways.....Isa 58:8-9

What are you up to?

I am still under my duvet and reading Jentzen Franklin's book: Right people, Right place, Right plan.

I have been reading it for a while because it's filled with so much insight and I don't just want to rush it. This was a gift from TBN UK and I am so grateful.

I have highlighted some of the sentences that really stood out this moment and this really got me thinking:

While we are so busy grabbing lesser things, ordinary things, mediocre things, God is planning extraordinary things for our future.... now let that sink!

Who would have believed that Esther, a Jewish slave would have been made Queen? And she was made queen for a reason.... We understand life from the past.

Don't take lightly, what you are going through especially if you are a believer in Christ.
All things indeed together work out for good... 





Tuesday, 29 May 2018

On replay...

The grief path...

6 weeks and 2 days ago, my dad shut his eyes never to open them again till we reunite again in eternity. It's been a really difficult time for my entire family and I. Also seeing that I had a fantastic relationship with my dad, its been a difficult journey for me and also one in which I have learnt a lot and hope to keep learning and also bring a source of help to those passing through grief.
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Welcome to a new series... "The grief path". I pray it helps someone out there passing through grief or the overwhelming pressures of life. I will be documenting my pain, my joys, my hope, highs & lows and everything in between.

And if you are reading this.... Please say a prayer for my family.

xx

Elly


Wednesday, 25 April 2018

On replay...

What is dying- Bishop Brent


Indeed nothing prepares anyone for the death of a loved one. And when it is a first degree family member, it is indescribable. You are never old enough, tough enough, spiritual enough or ready for death. Once it happens, it hits just as hard, like you never knew the word death ever existed.  Yesterday a colleague gave me a card and added this write up from Bishop Brent and the words have stayed with me...



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Tuesday, 10 April 2018

Rhema...




A few days ago, as I was studying the scriptures I received this word from the Lord in Mk 4: 38

" Master don't you care if we drown"? That was the question the disciples asked Jesus when they felt that they were drowning. Actually after reading that bit of scriptures, I had a few questions that I equally asked. Lord don't you care about this and that and the other one, plus this other one....



But in the midst of it all, I realised that in spite of all the questions I asked, which I might receive answers to or never receive answers to, what matters is that He is in the boat with me and at that point, I came to a place of rest. Coming to a place of rest however does not just happen. It requires a determination to believe in the face of what we call reality that might be really daunting, a resolve to be still regardless of the raging of the storm, it requires believing in what we know from the word of God even when it seems the foolish thing to do. Just because we know that the foolishness of God is wiser than man! May God give us grace to remain!



At this point, I remembered my Anglican hymns which I miss from time to time & thanks to God for the rescue. Those hymns remain classics 🙂














W O R D

Know the details of your journey...


Friday, 23 March 2018

On replay...

Life Is What You Make It...


Because UCB is my favourite devotional.... due to the practicality and reality of their write ups.
Please read and be blessed! Link is at the bottom in case you want to subscribe.
Have a fab Friday.


The story’s told of a wise old man. Every day he and his granddaughter would sit outside his petrol station in rocking chairs, waiting to greet tourists as they passed through their small town. One day a tall man with the appearance of a tourist started looking around like he was checking out the area for a place to live. ‘So what kind of town is this anyway?’ he asked. The old man replied, ‘Well, what kind of town are you from?’ The man replied, ‘One where the people are critical of each other. It’s a real negative place to live.’ The old man said, ‘You know, that’s just how this town is too.’ 









Later, a family passing through also stopped for petrol. The father stepped out and asked the old man, ‘Is this town a good place to live?’ ‘Well, what about the town you’re from?’ he replied. The man said, ‘Where I’m from everyone’s close, and always willing to lend a helping hand. I really hate to leave it.’ The old man smiled and said, ‘You know what, that’s a lot like this town.’ After the family drove off, the old man’s granddaughter looked up and asked, ‘Grandpa, how come you told the first man this was a terrible place to live, and when the second family asked, you told them it was a wonderful place to live?’ The old man looked into her big blue eyes and said, ‘Sweetheart, no matter where you go, you take your attitude with you – and that’s what makes it terrible or wonderful.’ Yes, life is what you make it! Which is why the Bible says, ‘For the happy heart, life is a continual feast.’

https://www.ucb.co.uk/word-for-today/15124

Monday, 19 March 2018

Encouragement..... Do It!

Today a friend from Canada sent me a link on Mission statement published by www.tekedia.com. She never knew I was already hooked to the blog to the extent that I actually introduce people around me to it.  Once I saw the link, before I even clicked on it, I responded "I love Ndubisi's writing" to which she responded me too! I have gotten so much inspiration from his blog www.tekedia.com. It's like my go to blog site at the end of the day. As I plan to become a successful entrepreneur, I get so much knowledge and insight from his page. I follow him on Linked In and few moments ago as I read his post, I said to myself
 "why don't you send him a mail, if he has been such a huge source of inspiration"?

Encouragement is one thing that is lacking in our world today. We are so quick to critic, but when someone is doing something really great, we sit on the sidelines and sometimes even act indifferently like its a walk in the park. I never cease to encourage people that inspire me, I must say I am so generous with that. It might be because, I don't want them to stop doing what they do because I know, its easier to get discouraged than encouraged.



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When was the last time you encouraged someone? Be it someone you know or even a total stranger?

See the message I sent to Ndubuisi. It's genuinely how I feel about his write ups. You could check out his blog and maybe you might just get hooked like I am😊, depending on what your interest is...


Hi Ndubuisi,
I must say I love reading your write ups and I am so proud of you. Today a friend sent me a link of your write up on Mission statement without knowing I already follow you and my response to her was "I love reading Ndubuisi's write up" to which she equally concurred. Thank you so much for inspiring us through your writing, humility and achievements and for being a good example to young folks (especially us millennials) for encouraging us to do better and "be more", for proving to us that hard work pays and most especially for teaching us that a good head is a fantastic asset but the right attitude will get us farther than our intellect ever will.
 God bless you!

Sunday, 18 March 2018

On replay...

Rhema

The presence of the storm is not an indication of the absence of God!

God is in the storm, don't let the storm make you vacillate

Mt 8: 23-24

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