Clamped Recovery Van

2 days ago, on my way home from work, I drove pass a clamped recovery van! Yes you heard me right "a clamped recovery van".... like the rescuer needs rescuing 😆




However, I reflect a lot. I get inspiration from just about anything & any situation so at this point, I just started thinking of all the times we run to people for help but these 'go to' people also have flaws, they have hidden battles which we might never know of.

It is also the same with relationships we expect so much from partners both business partners and relationships. We expect them to jump at all our whims & caprices but we forget that these individuals are also flawed & most times equally need rescuing...

Yesterday a much older colleague asked how I was doing & I responded "okay", truth is that yesterday was actually a struggle & I think she could see through it because I am usually buzzing with so much energy and she goes "Elly... just okay"? And I responded "No, I'm a bit below okay" and I told her a concise version of what my triggers at the time were which lasted for about 90secs and afterwards she told me how she was feeling which lasted for about 5mins and as she spoke, she got upset & the tears began to flow from her & I began to encourage her......The irony of life is that I felt, she would be able to say a word or two to me but I ended up being the encourager. When the rescuer needs rescuing I call it... 

Bottom line is I've learnt that the holy spirit is the perfect one when it comes to needing a rescue. God sometimes uses people but when our expectations are solely on people, we end up worse off or having a large collection of flawed individuals who make up a larger pity party!

Anyways, I get so much healing from my alone time & I plan to do me this weekend.... my mum has promised to pay for a massage so its looking good already...😀😀

Hope you have a fab weekend..

xx

"Point of View"

Your perception might be the problem...

Try changing your point of view & see if it makes a difference.

This is not to say you should lose yourself but rather have a holistic approach before jumping into assumptions and making decisions based on just assumptions...





Hoping we all have a fab week

Grief Path- Life after...

Few months ago precisely on the 15th of April 2018, my dad passed on. Its amazing how a single phone call has the capability to change your life forever. Nothing prepares anyone for death &  from my experience, I have no words to describe exactly how I felt when I received that call and how I still feel... There are no right adjectives that will justify how I feel. They say time heals but I feel that's just cliche anyways in my case. Even as I write this, the tears still flow... 'oh dad'

However it has been a season of tremendous growth. My words have become few, my patience improved, my dependence on God solidified, I find myself displaying wisdom beyond my years thanks to the holy spirit, my determination to really live & not just exist has been heightened and my reflections have taken a different form. Honestly this growth has happened unconsciously not out of determination but just by the circumstances surrounding me. The only thing I have consciously & prayerfully made an attempt not to fall into is depression and not necessarily because of the fear of the end result but because of the assignments/projects ahead of me which are quite huge. I have also made a conscious effort to de-clutter my mind & focus on what is important.

Some days however if not most days, I miss 'me'... I miss the days before the 15th of April. I wish everything could just go back to the way things were before dad shut his eyes for the last time. But I don't have so much time to remain in la la land because right before me, another battle lies ahead of me. The past 2 weeks have been intense and the coming ones will need additional 'Grace'....

This thing called life.... it just never ends. I am however glad to have this platform, to inspire both you & myself... yes writing is actually therapeutic for me and I will be here for a very long time inspiring this generation as the holy spirit helps me. 

Thanks to everyone who has followed me and constantly logging for inspiration even during my long silence. I  have a project I am working on which I will be sharing with you all soon.. 😊 

Do you have tips on how you got through a difficult path in life? Please share 

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Elly's Thoughts

Most times we beat ourselves so much for not being good at various things. We are our own biggest critic! I speak for myself actually. When it comes to planning & execution, I want everything to be detailed, I actually don't mind the delivery being robotic, when I involve vendors, I want seamless service.

But you know what... this perfectionist mentality is the thief of joy and is at the core of ingratitude because it makes me expect so much from others and even more from myself & best is never good enough for me. But as I reflect, and listen to some mentors, what hit me hard today is "Elly you can't be good at everything"

If that is part of your struggle, please give yourself a break, focus on your strength, learn new skills but don't force all your fingers in your mouth.

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Entrepreneur minds... PLAN!

Ndubuisi Ekekwe is one person I am glad I follow on Linked In & here's one of the reasons why... Read the following excerpt of what he shared yesterday. He mentioned Nigeria but it's practically applicable globally in my opinion.

As the wise man Solomon wrote many years ago, there is time for everything. You must know when to invest in your career and when to monetize your skills. Getting an extra degree is not a distraction. Getting a certification is not a distraction. Learning something new should never be a distraction. Always make sure you have a strategy with resilience to decouple your future from the decision of any man/woman. Fresh graduates, planning for the deep future may make you look stupid before peers who may not see beyond tomorrow. That first job is not for buying cars and expensive jewelry. It is to re-invest and INSURE your career with skills.

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Accumulation of capabilities is a continuum. The nature of labour is changing; you must adjust.  If you have not noticed it, know that more than 80% of non-public workers in Nigeria see dwindling wages after 15 years. The banking sector, oil & gas and increasingly telecoms are brutal on this: they cut workers and those workers never recover to earn as much as their old wages. Nigeria is challenging - no matter how comfortable you feel about that job, do not be overconfident. To the CFO, you are likely a number (I am sorry for that but that is the reality). Have PLANS and Good Luck.

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